if youre a knitter, a real knitter,
you might be a little snooty about crochet.
you totally are.
crochet is like the older, uglier sister of knitting.
that unmarried spinster who is more like a mother to her.
sure she probably knows better, and has a nice fulfilling career,
but knitting is the family rebel
I know I should just shake my head in disappointment and go on with my life. I know I’m overreacting. I know this is the sort of internet-fueled irritation that XKCD nailed some time ago in <– this comic that I should ignore.
It’s not about this guy, though it touched a nerve with some unmentionable recent experiences. I’m just tired of hearing crochet insulted, and I wish people would get over it already. It’s not the first insulting remark I’ve read, plus I’ve had people sneer at crochet to my face, and have been ignored and insulted in yarn shops. Other people notice it too, in comments and on blogs. Someone on Metafilter years ago posted a knit-hates-crochet video but the commenters agree the argument is stupid. I find it sad. I stopped going to yarn meetups because I was tired of snide comments like, “Is that crochet? I guess you couldn’t master knitting.” I rarely venture into local yarn shops because I got tired of people saying, “No, we don’t have any crocheters on staff” or “Why don’t you learn to knit instead? I think you’d like it more.” So let’s break this down.
1. Unless you’ve been raised in a barn, most people know that publicly insulting people and/or their skills is not polite. I really don’t understand feeling like you have permission to be insulting because other people in your subgroup do it. Not once have I ever insulted knitting or a knitter, and I’d feel horrible if I did. Don’t suggest your craft is “better,” don’t suggest people learn knitting when they tell you they crochet, don’t make comments under your breath, don’t call it ugly. That’s rude!
2. If you’re a crafter, don’t ever insult other peoples’ crafts. Do I really have to say that? If you’re a crafter you’ve likely spent a lot of time, money and effort on your craft, whether that’s needlepoint, sewing, crochet, knitting, scrapbooking, cross stitch, woodworking, weaving, dyeing, spinning or whatever. You, of all people, should know what kind of dedication it takes to become good at a craft. You should be the very last person on earth insulting someone else’s craft, for any reason. There are plenty of people in the world who think crafting is a waste of time and sneer at handmade items. For pete’s sake, don’t lower yourself into that camp, sneering at someone else’s hard work.
3. Who the hell is anybody to say my craft is ugly? It’s not. Crochet is a skill I’ve worked hard at over the last seven years to learn to create beautiful objects. I’m good at it, and I think that skill has value, both in the finished objects I’ve given away or kept, as well as the contemplative quiet that practicing it gives me.
4. I don’t understand why knitters feel the need to mock crochet because they don’t like it. Maybe it’s groupthink or the narcissism of small differences? I know many knitters crochet at least a little to fix saggy necklines and dropped stitches. But it’s as if crochet personally offended knitters in some way, which is patently absurd. So what if you don’t like the fabric as much! No one is forcing anyone to crochet, to wear crocheted items, or like the fabric crochet creates. Crochet is not stepping on anyone’s toes or elbowing anyone out of the way. Just get over it.
5. As a final note, there are some obvious fallacies in his statement anyway. Crochet and knit are about the same age, as nearly as anyone can tell (Kim Werker thinks crochet is younger). During its short history, crochet has often been linked to “counterculture” or fringe cultures (the Irish, flappers, hippies). Only if your sense of history is 10 years old (i.e. current hipsters) would you say knitting is more rebellious.
So there you go. I’ll say to you what I say to knitters who are shocked I crochet (and always assume it’s because I can’t knit). I like crochet and knit both. But for crafting, I prefer crocheting. It’s fun and relaxing. I like that it’s structural instead of stretchy. Plus, since there’s no void in my creative life that needs filling by another fiber craft (I also sew and quilt), I have no reason to knit. If I want or need a knit, I can easily buy one, even a hand-knit one if I want. So that’s what I do.
A shout-out, while I’m at it, to those knitters I know who aren’t this way. You’re a pleasure to talk to, and you restore my faith that knitters everywhere will one day just be content to love their own craft, and let others love theirs.